A little bit of "greasy water" in the bilge is normal. Check LACK of oil in your engine rather than what the water in your bilge looks like. If you have to top up your engine oil often, you probably have a leak. I have a 2000 Merc 4.3, I have at least 300 hours on it and I just change the oil every year. Yes, the bilge looks "greasy" from time to time, but I have not had to top it up with oil yet!
The "dieseling" or, more commonly known as a, "run-on" problem could be serious because a severe "run-on" can actually cause your pistons to go into REVERSE - in which case you will "pump" saltwater into your engine through the exhaust! When that happens you can look forward to a complete overhaul and a lightening of your pocket book by about $5,000.00! (This actually happened to a friend of mine with an 8 cylinder Penta.)
The problem is caused by high idle speed and old spark plugs, and is easily solved with a good tune up and letting the engine idle for at least 5 minutes before you turn it off!
Inevitable tiny carbon deposits on your spark-plugs will start to "glow" (like ambers in a camp fire) when your engine is hot. If you turn your engine off immediatly after gunning it or keeping it on cruising speed, the "ambers" are still "glowing", causing the engine to fire even though the ignition is turned off. Like I said - this is inevitable!
Give your engine a good tune up regularly (change your spark plugs every year and use QUALITY plugs); monitor your idle speed (should be no more than 700 rpm's); and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, let your engine "settle down" by idling it for at least five minutes before you turn off the ignition! Idling well under 1000 rpm's will lower the temperature in the firing chambers on top of the pistons, and, if the spark plugs are relatively fresh, will cause the "ambers" to stop "glowing"! When you turn off the ignition - it should stop immediately.
Hope that solves your problems...